A Better Question than Love

Reflections For Those In Abusive Relationships

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Quite recently I watched what may well be deemed a controversial video within the Awakening and New Age communities. My beautiful soul sister Hope Jemimah shared it on her Facebook page and it caused some great controversy. The video of contention was Matt Kahn's Soul Contracts, Twin Flames and Soul Mates Redifined. Allow me to preface this blog post by saying up front that I have no desire to attempt to define or redefine these terms - this is not what this blog is about.

Now, I truly did not watch the entire video - I find myself doing that a lot of late: buying a book and not finishing it, starting an interesting article and then just skimming it...it's almost as though I go in - take just what I need and then leave. It's just the way Spirit is working with me these days. 

Anyway back to the Matt Kahn video - the one thing that he said that jumped out and grabbed my attention and had it fully for the last few days since watching his video is (and I'm paraphrasing a bit):

"If you stay with someone long enough you will fall in love with them even if you hate them - because your core nature is love."

Now don't we see evidence of this all the time - whether it be the Stockholm syndrome that kidnap victims face or the woman who cries mournfully at the graveside of her abusive husband? Surely the psychologists and psycho-analysts would probably offer a more technical and logical explanation, but I personally believe that our true nature is love and that the Divine is choosing to have a multitude of physical experiences through and in us. 

However the moment that you resonate with this truth that we are all love at our core, the reality of life challenges you to see people - not based on this absolute truth but on their relative truth. 

So the absolute truth is that co-worker who gives you a hard time is an expression of God and that you should love her....but the relative truth- the truth you experience -  is that she is a backstabbing fiend who attempts to undermine you at every opportunity she gets. 

Imagine this scenario now: You are working on an ultra-important project but your co-worker envies the fact that you were chosen for this project. She has even presented herself as a better candidate for the project to your boss! 

You just sent your final report to the printer but when you go to collect it - it's not there. When you look down the corridor you see your good 'friend' or rather fiend walking away with a stack of papers in her hand. You approach her but she denies having your report but your 'spidey' sense aka intuition is shouting to you that your report is in her hands. 

You can't just say "Peace my sister" and walk away. Consider this - God is using this opportunity to challenge you to honour your intuition and speak up for yourself. You have been a doormat for far too long and have stamped down your intuition for far much longer. Yes you can re-print your report but do you really want it in her hands when you know she wants your project?

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Title: Workplace Backstabbing

Now I'm not advocating that you accuse her forthwith but maybe you can say 

"Oh really, can we just go through the papers you have in your hand because I know that I just sent my report to print and I believe it got mixed up with your print job." 

As your report miraculously jumps out of the stack in her hands, she apologizes and calls it a genuine mistake...let's not judge - maybe the mistake was indeed sincere....in any case, this is the place where you can show love! 
What is vitally important to the universe though, is that you stood up and honoured your intuition!

Now what does this have to do with the Matt Kahn video or abusive relationships. Well believe it or not - you playing the doormat to your co-worker's overt and covert tactics is an abusive relationship and according to Matt, that co-worker is a twin flame sent to meet you on your path and help you to accelerate your soul's evolution!

Now you see why the video is so contentious - because so many of us are just so attached to the idea of a 'one and only love for me'  twin flame romance song! I'm deliberately not getting into that conversation.

However, Matt did make me think about a relationship I walked away from and one of the hardest things for me has been trying to resolve whether I loved enough...or whether there was enough love and then all of a sudden I realised that the question of love is totally irrelevant. 

When at the core of our beings, we are all love for we all possess the Divine spark buried deep within us, we realise that we are all capable of loving. The problem is that we are inconsistent or incomplete in the loving as we suffer from unconsciousness - lacking the full awareness of who we really are!

The grieving wife at the husband's graveside telling everybody how she much she loved the dearly departed is not crying - in that moment - for all the times he hit and abused her but rather for all the good that she beheld in him. She is also grieving for what could have been and all the 'if only's' her marriage faced. If only he did not drink so much...If only they had more money.....

Did he abuse her and make her life miserable? Yes
Did she love him? - Most certainly - she stayed and hoped and prayed for the best.
Did he love her? I would like to suggest that yes he did! In his sober moments when he held her and sobbed and promised to never abuse her again - his agony was birthed from a place of momentary remorse and dare I even say - love as well!

Now we can argue that this is not a good representation of love and that abusive love is not true love and I would agree with you! 

However I will add that the higher perspective, that you are in position to have, is because you know better! The woman who stays - does not know better. This love - that buys her flowers one week and bandages the next - is the only love she knows, which is why you cannot use love to get her to leave!

Should she have stayed with him to live a life of pain and misery? You may say that we cannot go back in the past especially as our imaginary guy is already dead! 
However allow me to superimpose another image into our story - that of their daughter - a child who grew up watching this abuse and has now hand picked a guy who is 'just like daddy'. 
This daughter, based on her home environment, associates love with abuse and has consequently chosen a lover who abuses her.

Let's say you are a friend of this daughter and you try to explain to her that she is repeating a cycle of abuse and that she should walk away from her guy. She looks at you and says "But I love him....and he loves me."

Can you truly deny their love? Can you call her stupid and thereby subject her to verbal and emotional abuse? Especially when you know how her father treated her mother and that she loved both her father and mother?

Do you now see why Matt Kahn's statement was such an epiphany?

If we could all understand that we love - whether in part or in full - because that is what we truly are, then a better question to ask  is not - Is there love? But

Can there be growth?

Real Questions on Growth:

• Can you truly grow into the full capacity of your God given potential with someone who disrespects you and does not value you? 
• Do you even have any idea of how much potential you have? 
• Can your abusive partner grow into all that God has designed for him or her if you stay and facilitate their need to hurt other people by presenting yourself as a willing and submissive target? 
• Can you truthfully grow together and have a loving and healthy relationship where boundaries are set and respected? 
• Based on your real experience (as opposed to your fantasized desires) - are you being honest with yourself?
• Can your partner support and encourage you to pursue your passions - even if those passions are less about making money and more about fulfilling your soul's purpose?
• Does your partner nurture and support your vision for yourself or your business?
• Is your partner comfortable with you flourishing even as they don't?

Special Note for Victims of Physical Abuse:
If you experience physical abuse, you cannot effect change and help your partner grow if you stay! Your life is in danger and your life is precious. Please contact the relevant authorities.
It is okay to love your abusive spouse or partner - it is not okay to live with them. 
You guys need separation and external help via counselling etc. if you have to make it work.


To the victims of verbal and emotional abuse - your situation is actually pretty dire because of how sinister and undercover emotional abuse can be. If you truly believe that the two of you can grow together and you are both willing to conscientiously seek therapy and get the help needed...then you guys have a chance of making it.

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You cannot make it if:

• Only one of you sees a problem
• Only one of you is committed to seeking help
• Only one of you is committed to changing
• Your partner is treating your therapy as a charade
• Your partner is narcissistic and does not see his/her narcissism

Let's face it - the only way you could be content in an abusive relationship is if you lower your expectations and kill all the dreams you had for yourself - especially the dream of how you wanted to be loved and treated.

And everyone has dreams on love. You just may have forgotten yours if you think you don't have them. Revisit your inner child...

You may think that you are simply not growing and that you are comfortable with being stagnated and you may even tell yourself that it's a sacrifice you are making...maybe for your children perhaps. 

Here's the problem with that:

Nothing remains the same - not even stagnation.  Eventually, slowly but surely and possibly imperceptibly at first, stagnation gives way to death.

First you kill your long-term dreams, then you kill your day to day expectations, eventually you kill your opinions and by the time you have killed your hope, you have long lost the battle for you. 

If you have to take away only two things from this blog post, take this:

A constantly diminished you cannot truly serve another person - not even your abuser.

The more you grow, the more your understanding of love grows and this places you in a position to love better and be a better YOU!

So you may love and you are free to love, but can you grow? - that is the better question!


In love, light and blessings

EE

Leaving you with this heart stirring song from Chrisette Michele which may help some of you...:)

"Yes I love you but I really got to lose you

Freedom is where I want to be

Yes I'll probably always love you

But I'm moving

I got to do this for me!" 

 ~ Blame It On Me by Chrisette Michele

EE ARTICLES: The Role of Technology in Your Child's Development

Our last blog post and first offering for the EE Article Series explored what many believe is an impending consciousness revolution and I believe that it will actually be activated or driven by technology. The responses to "Conscious Revolution - The Youth Response to Technology" were enormous and sparked many discussions. One off-spin discussion is 'What role (if any) should technology play in our children's lives?' 

To venture to speak of the merits of technology is to allow oneself to sit on a pendulum that can swing between two very extreme trends of thought. And these thoughts are all so much more passionately expressed and felt when one thinks of what is best for one's child.

Parents Who Hate Technology

On one extreme end of the spectrum, are those for whom technology is the tool of the devil or the Illuminati. The thought of introducing technology to their precious child is beyond unthinkable. For these souls, the ideal spiritual approach to life is one where we abandon our concrete jungles and live in the real jungle. Swimming with the dolphins, eating wild berries and sleeping under the stars are for them the hallmarks of true spiritual living. 

These are the ones who who, quite notably, call for us to unplug from the matrix and get out into nature.

To the extremists - electronics and media houses are the tools of the alien reptilian race, which are used to program and monitor us. These folks won’t even own a tablet, far less introduce them to the pure, innocent minds of their star-seed children. 

(For what it is worth, there is something in the very core of my being which finds this lifestyle appealing although quite honestly, I have never truly experienced living in the wild).

Questions for this Parent: This parent needs to consider the following questions - Am I inadvertently teaching my children to be fearful of the unknown? Am I sufficiently open minded and balanced in my thinking? Can I acknowledge that even science can be spiritual? Am I ensuring that my child is well equipped for living in this technological era?

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Parents Who Love Technology 

On the other extreme end are those who view technology as the pinnacle and ultimate achievement of mankind. Research and studies that electronics invariably emit frequencies which may be harmful and serve in some way to affect the natural frequencies of the brain, mean nothing to them. 

How could it? They live in a fully automated smart house, sleep with their phones and tablets charging within easy reach from their pillows (not a good idea), and cannot imagine making it through the day without checking in to their Outlook calendar, Facebook news feed, Google circles. Twitter updates and other daily notifications. 

Will they introduce technology to their child? Why the baby room is already outfitted with the latest smart gadgets! Who needs mobiles, which are so last decade by the way, when there are sophisticated smart-sensor technology baby monitors? With built in sensors to detect baby’s movements and sleep patterns, one monitor on the market can adjust its display of lights and sounds to create different moods and environment to either soothe baby to sleep or greet them on waking in the morning. 

  

These parents will, quite naturally, gift their one year old baby with a tablet loaded with age appropriate apps and content and they will tell you that it’s to ‘help stimulate baby’s brain’’.

Questions for this Parent:

Am I using technology as a pacifier to avoid the act of parenting my child? Does my child sense that I genuinely want and enjoy spending time with them? Do I responsibly monitor my child's usage of technological devices? Am I sufficiently aware of the real dangers that exist not only with the internet but with the use of electronic devices?

Where should we stand?

Well let's eliminate the passions and just try to objectively consider the well researched and documented pros and cons:

The Pros:

Despite all the naysayers, there is growing support for the actual benefits of technology in childhood development.

●      Increased visual-spatial ability - A person’s visual-spatial ability which speaks to their capacity to understand and remember the spatial relations among objects is said to be quite indicative of a person’s adeptness to success in mathematics and science. Several notable bodies including the John Hopkins University recognise this and even recommends the playing of video and computer games to improve this skill within oneself.

●      Better Hand-Eye Coordination - The University of Toronto has researched increased sensorimotor skills among video gamers. Sensorimotor control speaks to coordinated vision and hand movement.

●      Improved Cognitive Development - There are certain regions of the brain that are engaged in the use of computerized devices which can be said to lead to improved cognitive development.

●      Improved Verbal Skills - It is not uncommon for children using these devices to quickly learn the nursery rhymes which can played on repeat to enhance rapid learning. As new words are learnt in the nursery rhymes, they can then start linking these words together in daily conversation.

The Cons:

To develop a more balanced perspective let us consider the research done in this authoritative report from Public Health England which highlights the major detriments to extensive ‘screen time’, a term which encapsulates television viewing time, time spent surfing the internet or playing video games etc.

The main cons are:

●      attention deficit problems - switching from the fast stimulation of technology to the slower pace of natural life means that children get bored more easily with the regular pace of life

●      Hyperactivity - strongly linked with the problem of attention deficiency. If the child’s natural environment is too slow and boring, children may become hyperactive to assist with giving themselves the heightened stimulation they have come to accept as normal from their computerized environments.

●      Socialization problems - most of the technology gadgets and activities can be engaged alone which means that children who spend excessive time playing alone on these gadgets won’t be able to develop crucial social skills which comes from interactions with other people and children

●      Lower levels of wellbeing - emotional distress, anxiety and depression are never too far off for kids who possess poor social skills from spending too much time alone.

●      Several physical health problems - such as eye strain and underdeveloped muscles from long periods of inactivity.

(NOTE: This article does not quite scratch the surface of other ills such as online predators, hackers who hack into your home camera system etc. but suffice it to be said that there are real dangers inherent with technology use which one must become aware of. This article is simply focused on how technology may affect your child's development.)

Conclusion ~ Technology and Your Child: To Be or Not to Be?

In the same way the pendulum eventually comes to rest in a neutral position after a period of time, so too our passionate thoughts and beliefs eventually find a more neutral and balanced view. And so my position is:

“I’m not afraid to expose my child to technology. Technology is a tool which I will manage the usage of, for both myself and my child”.

After starting with a complex mathematical function for our pendulum swing, we end up with a very simple equation:

Love = Time

The most crucial thing you can do to aid your child's development is spend time with them. This is how children interpret love.

So gadget loving mommy or tree hugging daddy (and yes I purposefully switched these from the expected stereotypes) - whatever you do, make sure to spend adequate time with your child. Your love, which comes across in the time you dedicate to them, is the best development tool ever.

Love, Light and Blessings

Elizabeth Energy

EE Articles: Consciousness Revolution - The Youth Response to Technology

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 In reviewing the definite impact technology is having on our youth, our minds can easily become fixated on the negatives because of how prevalent they are. Sexting, virtual sex, streaming pornography and the easy ability to meet strangers online are all new realities made possible by the technology era.

Yet technology brings positives as well. Remote and online education programs are typically more flexible and more feasible. The large availability of data from various resources leads to more comprehensive research and more conclusive findings.

The exposure to different cultures and ways of thinking leads to greater tolerance and there are countless income generating opportunities for young writers, programmers and online entrepreneurs.

Let us look at the different facets of a teenager’s life and consider technology’s influence and try to identify the picture that is developing.

Home & Family

Children are now requesting laptops, tablets, cell phones and video games at younger ages and the increasing sales of these devices every Christmas shows that their parents are listening.

However children are not the only ones affected. Technology has changed the way of living and working for parents. Thanks to the internet and the many mobile platforms, parents can easily work from home. While this is still highly romanticized and touted as giving parents ‘more time at home with the kids’, what it really translates into is parents who are always working at home.

Even when not working, parents may tend to recreate online, visiting social media sites or playing online games.

What this means is that many people who share a home, very rarely share quality time together. Each person is plugged into their own device.

“Alone Together” is a phenomenon that psychoanalyst Sherry Turkle explores in her book of the same name and she discusses among several things, the sense of community and connection people now derive and expect from technology while expecting less from each other in person.

School & Education

For a long time the book was synonymous with education. That is no longer so. The nails on the coffin for books were firmly secured the minute the advanced search engine was created. Spending hours poring through the pages of various texts is simply archaic and a waste of time.

To make matters worse for the book lovers, the search engine’s results are also not only limited to text. Videos provide visual instruction and present opportunities to easily learn new skills without attending a course or institution of learning.

Education providers therefore are forced to change with the times and provide more visually stimulating computerized environments to engage young minds.

What this means or rather strongly suggests is that the brains of the young have been rewired somewhat. The old linear, sequential manner of processing information as is encouraged by book reading has been retired. Emphasis is now placed on information gathering skills which focus on how to skim large quantities of data from multiple sources and retrieve what is pertinent. Memory retention is also not as important as critical analysis.

Technology writer, Nicholas Carr has greatly supported this notion in his book “The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains”. He states:

“...the argument is that online activities—surfing, searching, jumping from e-mail to text—actually change the nature of the brain. The more time we spend online, the more we are incapable of quiet reverie, not because of habits of mind but because of a rewiring of our circuitry.”

Pop Culture and Celebrity Stardom

The effects on this may still be downplayed by a media that does not yet wish to lose their venerated cash cows in Hollywood. However it stands to reason that the ability for anyone to become a star by posting a YouTube video displaying their talent will affect the perception of stardom.

Fullscreen, Inc. is a company which helps to finance videos for young creators, from any part of the world. According to their CEO, George Strompolos, any teenager with a web camera who can connect with an audience can become a millionaire and they have helped to create several. These internet stars, which are generally unknown to those over the age of 30, have their own substantial fan base and following and they can come from any part of the world.

What this means is that firmly rooted into the psyche of the new emerging youth culture is that you don’t need to go to New York or Hollywood to become famous. Literally anyone from anywhere can be a star.

Money and Careers

Online entrepreneurship is booming and even among the young. Almost anyone who has access to a computer can create a blog and again once the content is engaging, once a niche market can be found, money can be made. There’s also money in selling photography, web programming, affiliate marketing, virtual outsourcing to brick and mortar companies and of course these skills can be acquired – online!

What this means is the traditional way of making money, following the path of school, college and ‘5 day a week’ job is being booted out along with books. Anyone can make a lot of money at any age and from anywhere.

Views on Politics

For many people, religion and politics are hallmarks of what define you as an individual and are what gives you a sense of stability and belonging within a community. However a young person’s community is no longer just the people he physically meets in his neighbourhood at church, temple or mosque but rather anyone in cyberspace who share his interests.

In times past, governments attempted to control people’s thinking by controlling the media. Technology has severely compromised this control because for example, it is hard to gobble up the sensational media coverage of terrorism when video footage of serene images pop up for a region reportedly under bomb and gun fire.

2011 is recorded in history as the year of major social media organized uprisings. Facebook, Twitter and YouTube all played roles in the revolutions in Tunisia, Egypt, Libya, Syria and Bahrain as well as the Occupy Movements in the United States. Quite worthy of mention is the sharing of lessons learnt between the different activist groups such as when Tunisian Facebook users advised their Egyptian peers to ‘Put vinegar or onion under your scarf for tear gas’.

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The London rioters used another telecommunications channel - the Blackberry Messenger service.

What this means is that young people are aware of the potential that technology offers and have been exposed to the power it can wield to influence political events. Various governments have responded by limiting and controlling internet usage and have even at times blocked cell phone connectivity. This response however has only pushed the younger innovative minds to go underground as there are talks of a new ‘off-the-grid’ network.

Views on Religion and God

I am from the Caribbean and most everyone I know attends church, mosque or temple and practice some fundamental religion but yet here I am belonging to the Light Body Travelers community, exploring energy work and practising meditation. I may not belong to the age bracket defined by William May when he introduced our focus on Youth Culture but I can see how the expansion of my views was partially affected by technology.

It is relatively hard to simply accept that those who don’t believe in God the way you do are doomed to hell’s fire when you have the opportunity to meet and interact with so many different people across various cultures.

The internet also provides easy accessibility to many holy books and teachings online, and discussion forums where one can be exposed to different dissecting views.

What this means is that young people have a unique opportunity to develop more comprehensive world views and are abandoning old dogmas and prejudices. Consider Will Smith’s children who are reading quantum physics and books such as “The Ancient Secret of the Flower of Life”.

In fact I believe that religion is slowly but surely being replaced by a more all-inclusive, earth conscious spirituality.

                     

Views on Love

The children growing up in smart homes and heavily computerized environments are also the children of an alarmingly growing percentage of divorced parents. For many of those whose parents are still together, they watch them argue and fight and spend little to no time having meaningful interactions. And these are people who fell in love after growing up in the same neighbourhood or attending the same college.

On the other hand, these young people go online and can find someone they can connect with. This person shares similar world views and likes the same things they do. Thanks to video calling capabilities, they can see each other and fall in love from half way across the world.

For many, the hours spent texting and chatting long distance strengthens their sense of a soul connection and their belief in a ‘one true soul-mate’ or twin flame. The reality however is sometimes painfully disastrous.

What this means is that young people no longer see themselves as limited to only finding love or casual friendships in their physical location. Some of these ‘too good to be true’ relationships unfortunately are exactly that, which means that there is also a growing dissatisfaction with love regardless of where is found. They yearn for something deeper, something more real, truer even. Something connected to spirit perhaps?

So What Does This All Mean?

There are many articles that speak to the real psychological problems of depression and narcissism among young people who feel the need to constantly check how many likes their latest ‘selfie’ photo has garnered. Cyber-bullying has been directly linked to some teenage suicides and suicide attempts, and online sexual predators do prey on the gullible young.

However there are those who hold more optimistic views as far as technology and the young are concerned. Carr believes that there is an ‘incipient Net backlash’ which will be led by the idealistic young. Blogger Manel Blanco adds a spiritual element and sees the internet as ‘a platform in which we can create energetic webs’ that can help to raise consciousness. My view embraces these two.

I believe that a consciousness revolution is imminent and its rumblings are already starting.  I believe that this consciousness revolution will look a lot like Adam Bucko’s and Matthew Fox’s Occupy Spirituality and I believe that it will eventually lead to us discarding the internet. We simply won’t need it, not when telepathy, soul travel, acute intuition and psychic abilities all become available to us at higher levels of consciousness.

 

The off grid network that people currently seek has always existed and technology is nothing but a prelude to all this. We have arrived at the ‘the technological simulation of consciousness’ that Marshall McLuhan spoke of and it is only a matter of time before we recognize that the simulation is nothing but a poor imitation.

I believe too that it is the young - the ones who recognise the archaic uselessness of our current systems; the ones who are breaking down mental, religious and financial barriers; the ones whose brains are being trained for higher analytical thinking; the ones who have felt the pinch of being ‘together and yet alone’ and who are looking for a love that is real and spiritual - will be the ones leading the way.

What do you think?

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As originally submitted to Spiritualist International Magazine for their Youth Culture focus under the title - 'How Technology is Shaping Youth Culture'. Apologies to all those who had problems accessing it on their site. Their techies are busy working to resolve the Chrome compatibility issues!

Love, light & blessings,

Elizabeth Energy

Your Ego is Not Your Enemy

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There are many people in the spiritually awakening community who would advocate that overcoming the ego is the greatest challenge for one on a path of Self-Realization.

This ideology does have many merits. The ego is the source of separate consciousness which opposes unity consciousness and it is also what drives competition, animosity, feelings of inferiority/superiority and a lot of what are termed to be ills or challenges for the person on a path of enlightenment. 

However the approach for overcoming the ego can't be to treat it as an enemy you must resist. Anything that you resist, tends to persist and  something that many of us need to get is this - 

Your ego is a part of you that exists to help you understand yourself! 

Simply suppressing the ego and the message it is trying to transmit will only force it to bring the message to you in a more forceful manner later on. This will lead to constant internal conflict, which is not good.

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Consider this typical office scenario...

Jane has been having a hard time. She's going through a divorce, trying to handle raising three kids on her own and on top of all that they're rolling out some new software at the office this week. 
Jane is usually on top of things and in fact, Jane has helped you several times in the past with navigating and using different software packages. 

You're on this path of awakening and self-realization which is making you more sensitive and so you easily discern Jane's distress even though she is several cubicles away. You head across and give her a much needed hand and she thanks you profusely even as tears threaten to well up in her eyes. In that moment your intuition sharply advises you to try to cheer her up (so that she does not break down there and then in the office) and offer to have lunch with her, should she wish to talk or just share a laugh. Jane readily accepts and your intuition is now telling you to discreetly walk away -

But then...you spot the boss rounding the corner towards Jane's cubicle and your ego sees an opportunity to promote itself.

Instead of walking away you loudly make an unnecessary comment to Jane that you are here for her any time she needs. The boss overhears and now feels the need to ask if everything is okay. You generously try to mull it over like it's no big deal but somewhere within your polite pretence, it comes out that you were helping Jane with the new software. 
The boss congratulates you and you feel pretty smug about yourself but unknowingly to you - you just made Jane feel a bit awkward and exposed.

It's no big deal! You still have your lunch date with Jane and you both share some laughs. No foul real right! Maybe - but it does not change the fact that -  you did not listen!

Forget Jane and her awkwardness for a second because she is on her path as well. Let's focus on you.

When your ego challenged you to try to impress the boss, you were supposed to walk back to your seat and then entertain an internal dialogue to discover why you felt you needed your boss' praise. Is this a pattern that needs healing?  Do you typically need people to think that you are a good person before you can believe this of yourself?

By succumbing to your ego you just missed out on the opportunity to make this self discovery. 

Here is what you should do the next time your ego raises it's head:

1. Acknowledge the ego - Acknowledge the fact that you are, at the moment, being tempted to feed your ego.

2. Interrogate yourself - What is the lesson to learn? Or what is the area of yourself that needs healing. Does this stem from a past hurt or something in your childhood?

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3. Thank your ego - It is doing it's job! 

4. Talk to yourself lovingly and begin the healing process - Understand that you may have to confront your ego a few more times depending on how deeply ingrained the issue is within your psyche.

Know this - Love is the key to overcoming all our great obstacles which are usually fear based. In this case it's the fear that people don't know how good you are at your job.

So let's re-imagine the scenario.

You heeded your intuition and made a quiet and discreet exit. 
You then begin exploring a hidden part of yourself and you grow. That's it.

Soon enough as you continue accepting and healing yourself, you would realise that you don't need to seek out adulation. It flows to you naturally as a response from the universe to the new signal you are now transmitting!

For more reading on how to view your ego in a new and powerful way, check out this article from Howard Falco entitled A Powerful New Way to Understand Your Ego . I like how Falco offers that your  ego is really just a powerful automated process working from a script of your personal beliefs. He also submits that you just need to understand it and then you can make a conscious decision to change your script to suit who you are becoming.

So - love yourself and learn from your ego.

Love, light and blessings y'all,
Elizabeth 

P.S. - Additionally, there's really good reading on this page where I sourced one of the images ~ How to Stop Running Away From yourself

Mommy Goddess: Love Will Heal Your Child

Mothers are given special authority by God. As a mother, your body transported, nourished, sustained and eventually delivered into this world your precious little bundle of joy. That means a lot!

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The doctors may have cut the umbilical cord which connected you to your baby but an invisible cord forever extends from your womb to your baby. Have you ever heard a mother tell you that she knew her child was in distress because she felt it in her tummy area? 
Sometimes, because we are so disconnected from our wombs and poorly educated about our wombs, we may mix up signals that originate from the womb with the stomach region. However it is true - you are connected to your child in a way that a man can never understand. For approximately nine months, you felt those little (or big) flutters, kicks, flops, punches and you and your baby bonded in a way that can best be described as mystical.

When your little baby came into the world, the connection became more intuitive and even though it may have been frustrating at times (especially when they woke you every two hours!) the fact remains that if you could tune into your blessed feminine intuition you will understand your child in a special and unique way.

A Personal Story - You Be Love

A couple weeks ago my son was ill and in quite a lot of distress. I had carried him to the doctor several times, tried medication, tried natural remedies - I even tried the energy in my hands. Nothing seemed to soothe him. As far as my hands were concerned, even if I held them a few inches from his body and tried to send him energy on intention he would sense what I was doing (even with his head facing the next direction) and move my hands. I was trying to cure him - with the medication, remedies and energy - but that was not what he needed. Blessed little soul that he is, God was using him to communicate a very important lesson to me.

One night when he woke me up with his poor little sobs, I got frustrated. I was like "Really God! Mother God - Father God - anyone! You call yourself a God of love and yet you will see this poor little child in misery and not help him?"
The response was immediate 

"You call yourself goddess - YOU be LOVE to him."

I was taken aback and in that moment of pause, my son stopped crying - almost as it were to bring the point home to me. I obeyed and put aside my frustration - which no doubt was being picked up by my sensitive child and just patiently held him and let him know that I was there to just hold him and love him. I also let him know that it did not matter how many times he needed to get up - I would always be there, to lovingly and patiently hold him.

You know what - he did get up a few times again, but somehow he was able to quietly communicate to me in my sleep that he was up and every time I was able to automatically wake up and comfort him.

God communicated a powerful lesson to me that night. God is moving beyond the physical - God is concerned with healing at the level of the soul.

The next day my son was more than 90% recovered and I just continued giving him what he needed from me - love.

Dear Mothers - you have a special authority given to you from God. Don't ever underestimate it or deny it! 

Since that experience, I have noted a shift in my relationship with my child. It's as if our connection has gone deeper because it has. I truly love the truths God is revealing to me and I hope you could take something from this post that will help you. 

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We are all learning to walk in the light of who we truly are, at a time of great change such as the earth has probably never witnessed before. Even as we learn to walk in our true nature, we must continue to face the very real human-duality based challenges because we must overcome them, in love, to get to where we are going.

Learn to listen to your intuition and trust God. Trust love.



Love, Light and Blessings
Elizabeth Energy