Mommy Goddess: Love Will Heal Your Child

Mothers are given special authority by God. As a mother, your body transported, nourished, sustained and eventually delivered into this world your precious little bundle of joy. That means a lot!

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The doctors may have cut the umbilical cord which connected you to your baby but an invisible cord forever extends from your womb to your baby. Have you ever heard a mother tell you that she knew her child was in distress because she felt it in her tummy area? 
Sometimes, because we are so disconnected from our wombs and poorly educated about our wombs, we may mix up signals that originate from the womb with the stomach region. However it is true - you are connected to your child in a way that a man can never understand. For approximately nine months, you felt those little (or big) flutters, kicks, flops, punches and you and your baby bonded in a way that can best be described as mystical.

When your little baby came into the world, the connection became more intuitive and even though it may have been frustrating at times (especially when they woke you every two hours!) the fact remains that if you could tune into your blessed feminine intuition you will understand your child in a special and unique way.

A Personal Story - You Be Love

A couple weeks ago my son was ill and in quite a lot of distress. I had carried him to the doctor several times, tried medication, tried natural remedies - I even tried the energy in my hands. Nothing seemed to soothe him. As far as my hands were concerned, even if I held them a few inches from his body and tried to send him energy on intention he would sense what I was doing (even with his head facing the next direction) and move my hands. I was trying to cure him - with the medication, remedies and energy - but that was not what he needed. Blessed little soul that he is, God was using him to communicate a very important lesson to me.

One night when he woke me up with his poor little sobs, I got frustrated. I was like "Really God! Mother God - Father God - anyone! You call yourself a God of love and yet you will see this poor little child in misery and not help him?"
The response was immediate 

"You call yourself goddess - YOU be LOVE to him."

I was taken aback and in that moment of pause, my son stopped crying - almost as it were to bring the point home to me. I obeyed and put aside my frustration - which no doubt was being picked up by my sensitive child and just patiently held him and let him know that I was there to just hold him and love him. I also let him know that it did not matter how many times he needed to get up - I would always be there, to lovingly and patiently hold him.

You know what - he did get up a few times again, but somehow he was able to quietly communicate to me in my sleep that he was up and every time I was able to automatically wake up and comfort him.

God communicated a powerful lesson to me that night. God is moving beyond the physical - God is concerned with healing at the level of the soul.

The next day my son was more than 90% recovered and I just continued giving him what he needed from me - love.

Dear Mothers - you have a special authority given to you from God. Don't ever underestimate it or deny it! 

Since that experience, I have noted a shift in my relationship with my child. It's as if our connection has gone deeper because it has. I truly love the truths God is revealing to me and I hope you could take something from this post that will help you. 

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We are all learning to walk in the light of who we truly are, at a time of great change such as the earth has probably never witnessed before. Even as we learn to walk in our true nature, we must continue to face the very real human-duality based challenges because we must overcome them, in love, to get to where we are going.

Learn to listen to your intuition and trust God. Trust love.



Love, Light and Blessings
Elizabeth Energy

The Art of Graciously Walking Away

You have made up your mind. You are walking away from this relationship. It’s either abusive or oppressive – it is not allowing you to grow. In one way or the other, it is toxic to you and your soul. You know you deserve better and you want better but you are also on a true spiritual path and so the ‘how you walk away’ is important to you. 

As much as you want to ascertain yourself and your independence, you want the way you walk away to be reflective of your highest ideals and beliefs in yourself. You want to walk away graciously. Here is how you do it.

Acknowledge The Love – The fact that you are reading this article means that love existed at one time or the other and that's why you care about how you walk away. A lot of people believe hate and hostility are the necessary vehicles one must use when walking away from a bad relationship. While it is necessary to feel angry and hurt, you don't have to feel hate to walk away. In fact, it is a whole lot more empowering to acknowledge your love for this person for it means that your decision is actually rooted in a more objective place.

When you spend a lot of energy bitterly hating someone who has hurt you, only to realise that you still love this person, the effect can actually be quite damning for you. You see all those negative energies that you created can actually turn around and manifest as feelings of guilt and shame when you are forced to confront the truth that you still do love this person. This is the boomerang effect.

You need to understand something – You don’t need to stop loving someone to walk away from them. Walking away does not mean the love has ended, it just means that you have chosen to love yourself better.

Be Angry, Hurt & Disappointed – When you accept that you do or did love and care for this person, it opens the way for you to truly feel your pain. This is necessary. Feel the anger and the hurt. Acknowledge the fact that this person has disappointed you. If you want to journal your feelings, go ahead. If you want to vent to a friend – go ahead. 

Some words of caution for the friend you chose to vent to though – make sure this person is trustworthy and won’t betray your confidence. It is also really advisable to select someone who is a good listener. As you vent, you don’t need this person constantly interrupting to put in her ‘two cents’, as we say here in the Caribbean, which means that their own failed relationships and even their thoughts about your ex are not welcome at this time. You are venting. You are feeling your pain.

Stay Away from Public Broadcasts – Put another way – leave your business off social media! Or as we say in the gorgeous Caribbean – don’t air your dirty laundry in public! That pic of the girl flipping off the camera carrying the caption “I’m So Glad I left your Sorry A$$” does not need to become your new profile picture nor do those words need to become your new status update! 

You also don’t need to be telling everyone you meet why your relationship failed and all the wrong things your ex did. If asked, you can politely admit that yes you guys are over but you really don’t want to get caught up in mudslinging or discussing it. If you are direct, people will respect your boundaries. In fact, they may even feel embarrassed for asking, so if it is someone whose friendship you do value, you can further tell them that your feelings are just too raw at the moment and that’s why you don’t wish to discuss.

Even if your ex is maligning your name; you still owe it to yourself to be more mature and gracious. Such immaturity is expected of little teenagers or persons who are still emotionally undeveloped. This reflects more on your ex than it does on you. Your friends and peers, who are right now giving him an ear, will see through this eventually and if they are that gullible to believe every word he says, then trust me, you should not care about their opinion!

Forgive Them For They Know Not What They Do – the idea of forgiveness often times rubs people the wrong way. Forgiving someone does not mean excusing their hurtful words or actions. The mere fact that you have chosen to walk away, already signals to the Universe and to yourself that you will no longer tolerate their behaviour and that you have already embraced the fact that you deserve better. 

You need to realize that this person was operating from their own limited knowledge of highest truth. People who hurt you actually do this because they think it is beneficial to them. They say hurtful things or betray you because that is how they steal energy when they are running low on energy. I discuss this at length here The Energy Exchange In Emotional Abuse and it is applicable to other abusive relationships as well.

These people have not yet discovered a way to tap into the Source of life to refuel. They feel bad about themselves and so they make you feel bad about yourself. You however, have an opportunity to work from the highest knowledge you have of yourself. Once you have acknowledged your pain – and only you will know how long you need to do this – it is to your highest good to then release this individual. That is what forgiveness is all about – releasing them so that they do not continue to be toxic to your aura even after you left them.

Reflect & Be Grateful – You should be able to reflect on the good qualities of this relationship and this individual and be thankful for them. Don't go around saying everything about this person was bad and evil only to then have a quiet moment where you recall something wonderful they did for you. Again the boomerang effect comes into play and all the negative energies you were pushing towards them will turn around and act upon you as guilt and shame. 

Even if you truly believe there was nothing positive about your experience with this individual, you can at least be grateful for the important lessons learnt. You see you are leaving because you have come to better appreciate what you want and what you don’t want in a relationship. You should also spend some time reflecting on what attracted you to this person and how this experience is going to shape what you look for in another relationship. 

Don’t spend too much time beating up yourself for your past decisions, instead acknowledge that you have grown and are hopefully in a better place to make better decisions. You are a lot stronger than you think – and this is something that you could always be grateful for.

Practice Kindness – Now I stand to lose a lot of people here, but if you reached this far in the article, please stay with me till the end. I am not asking you to become a ‘bobolee’ – that’s a Caribbean term for someone who allows people to take advantage of them. I am certainly not condoning that you continue to help your ex with his loans and bill payments long after you have gone. When we understand soul contracts which is quite sufficiently explored by Danielle Mackinnon in her book, we realize that there are some people you need to walk away from so that their soul can learn a valuable lesson. If you walk away from them but are still a crutch to them, then not only are you allowing yourself to be used but you are also not serving the highest good of this person’s soul. 

The kindness I speak of in this point rather refers to your ability to be gracious while respecting your boundaries. For example, if your ex is an excellent and professional artist and you know someone looking for the kind of art work that he can deliver, by all means refer him!

Don’t refer him because you feel guilty about leaving him and are now worrying about how he is paying his bills! Refer him because you truly believe he can provide what this potential client is looking for. Remember, you are not obligated to worry about this person you have walked away from. Worry and guilt are low vibrating frequencies. However in a scenario such as this, it would actually be dishonest to say you don’t know a suitable artist and again you don’t want to energetically be aligned to such negative frequencies.

If you can leave someone and still be kind towards them, then it means that you have truly grown and are in a much better place to move onto a next relationship if you so choose.

Choosing to graciously walk away from a toxic relationship, as it is explained here, will not only give you peace of mind but it also sends a powerful signal to the Universe that you have grown and that you don’t need a repeat lesson! Ever wondered why some people keep attracting the same kind of abusive relationships despite setting intentions for good partners? Well what we signal to the Universe attracts more of those experiences and people that will reinforce the signal we are transmitting. So victims, with victim mindsets are transmitting “I am a victim, I always get a raw deal no matter how hard I try!” Guess what? They will always attract oppressors and abusers to reinforce those signals. It sounds harsh, but it is true. That's your power as a god or goddess - you create your life and you can choose to either do so consciously or unconsciously.

So, make a conscious decision to walk away graciously and tell the Universe "I have had some bad experiences but I have learnt from them and I am now a better person and I am now more connected to my true nature of love and light." If you continue to live in these higher vibrations, sure enough more of the really good stuff –in every area of your life -  will come your way!

Love, Light and Blessings

Elizabeth Energy

Getting In Touch With Your Inner Goddess

Ladies, your Goddess is your Higher Self expressed in all its feminine glory. All the great Masters who have walked the earth have come bearing a message that many thought to be sacrilegious. That's because when they said that we were 'children of GOD', they were actually telling us that we are made up of the stuff that GOD is made up of - we are divine.

You may not always feel this way or even act this way but it does not change the fact that you are children of the Most High GOD - the ONE who transcends all.

"I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the Most High GOD." - Psalm 82:16, KJV

And it is true - the apple does not fall far from the tree. We may forget who we are and act out of ignorance but it does not take much for you to get in touch with your true nature.

Getting In Touch

1. Spend time in Nature - 

"Looking at beauty in the world, is the first step of purifying the mind." - Amit Ray, Meditation: Insights and Inspirations 

Get outdoors and appreciate the beauty of a tree or the organized effectiveness of an ant colony. See the beauty and magnificence of GOD in nature and you begin to appreciate this beauty and magnificence in yourself. 

Spend time gazing up at the sky and know that there is some greater purpose to life on earth for are told in Psalm 19:1 "The heavens declare the glory of GOD..."

"Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better." - Albert Einstein 

2. Sit Quietly and Breathe - Learn to shut out external influences. Take off the TV, the tablet and your cell phone. Sit quietly and pay attention to your breath - it's the one thing that connects you to your body and by paying attention to it you begin to appreciate that the real 'you' is not your body. You somehow begin to appreciate that your body is nothing more than a cloak that you are wearing in this life. 

To truly master the art of divine breathing, spend some time observing the way babies and toddlers breathe. They breathe into their bellies and if you watch them closely especially while they sleep, you will see this. 

As you inhale, consciously send your breath into your tummy and you would find that as you relax into the practice, that the breath actually fills both your tummy and your chest because the breath sent into the tummy actually rises and fills the chest cavity as well. 

When you exhale, pull your tummy towards your spine, forcing the air slowly out of your nostrils. 

This is what I call the Love Breath and this is actually how you breath into your Heart Chakra. However in a specific heart chakra meditation you also employ visualizations such as seeing a sphere of light emanating from your heart and encompassing your body. Even without the visualization though, you can still turn this act of breathing into a powerful meditation by entertaining thoughts of loved ones or pleasant experiences while you breathe quietly.

"There is one way of breathing that is shameful and constricted. Then there's another way: a breath of love that takes you all the way to infinity." - Rumi 

3. Be Thankful - Expressing gratitude to something bigger than yourself shows that you acknowledge the existence of Divine Source. Acknowledging a Divine Source of all life, starts opening you up to accepting that you came from this Divine Source and therefore must be divine as well! The more you look for things to be thankful about, the more they manifest and this in turn reinforces your connection with the Divine.

"Let us be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little. And if we didn't learnt a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so let us all be thankful." - Buddha

 There is always something to be thankful about. 

4. Spend Time Loving Your Body - Gently lotion your body after a bath and just revel in the beautiful sensations of your hands on your body and how beautiful your body is. If you get a little turned on - who cares? You are alive - you were given a body so that you could enjoy sensation. Let those beautiful sensations wash over you and the power of this - is that you don't need to be thinking of anyone in particular. 

In fact, to make this a really sacred experience, hold onto thoughts of love and good during this sensual experience for therein is a powerful little secret of how we can manifest by harnessing the beauty of sexual energy - and no, I am no advocate for group orgies or any such perverted folly. And any guru trading enlightenment for sex is a fraud! Your body is sacred.

There is great beauty and mutual benefit in the sexual union that may be experienced in a loving and committed relationship but here I am simply dealing with being able to enjoy your own wonderful body. 

"Know you not that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, which is in you..." 1 Cor 6:19-20

5. Operate from Love or Above - Certain temperaments have certain frequencies attached to them. Love, Joy, Gratitude and Peace have the highest vibrating frequencies. Choosing love does not mean that you have to walk around smiling and saying 'Namaste' to everyone! (- although it does not hurt to smile as I'll explain below). 

It means that when someone hurts you, you choose to see that they are operating from the best knowledge they have of themselves and you too have a choice in how you respond, to act from the best knowledge you have of yourself.

When you start filtering your decisions through the screen of love, you actually empower yourself. So for example, you have been repeatedly betrayed by someone and you can't trust them. Highest love will allow you to forgive this individual and even wish them well while yet firmly walking away from their toxicity. You never know, your decision to first love yourself and then love them in such a pure manner may just be one of the interactions that their soul needs along its own path of evolution.

6. Smile A Lot - The gift of a smile can just brighten someone's day when they need it. It generates positive feelings within yourself and is a great way to give good energy to others in a manner that will not deplete your own energy. Truth be told - if you do the techniques already discussed above, you would find that you naturally begin to smile a lot more! It's an outward expression of what is happening within.

You can actually use smiling to raise your internal vibrations. Well, smiling combined with a couple of the techniques actually. This is one of the ways that you can 'hack' your consciousness!

Turning Around Your Feelings With Conscious Love Breathing, Gratitude and Smiling

Try this the next time you are feeling low - 

• close your eyes 
• take a couple love breaths
• find something to be grateful about and 
• smile with your eyes still closed. 

Even if the smile feels fake at first, you may find yourself laughing at yourself for faking it! Then the real smile comes and just bathes you in its genuine warmth. 

I absolutely love this photograph. I love the natural, no make-up look of the model and the way the sun just seems to be smiling on her beautiful smiling face. Can't you see her inner goddess? This lovely photograph is courtesy http://serenitystyles.deviantart.com/ and the artist's bio on her blog http://serenitystyles.blogspot.com/ says that she just wants to bring a little more joy to the world. Isn't that awesome?

7. Listen to Music & Dance - Music speaks to the soul and that is why so many people resonate so powerfully with this form of expression. Dancing helps you to appreciate your body and your own uniqueness because the way you move and jiggle is all your own. 

Even if someone tries to mimic you, they can never get into your head to know what inspired you to move your hands or waist in the way you did. In fact, chances are you may not even know because it came from a place deep within. 

That is the power of the Sacred Feminine. 

If you can really embrace this, you will discover that dancing is also a powerful form of meditation. You only really, truly dance when you reach the point of letting go and just going with the flow. Even professional dancers will tell you, their best performances happen when they lose themselves to the music and trust their months of training to be so firmly rooted in them that they don't need to think about where they place their feet!

These techniques are simple but effective. I really wrote this from a place of love and I hope you feel it.

Give yourself a challenge of practising these techniques little by little until they become a part of you. Even if it feels unnatural at first - I know a lot of people struggle with the whole smiling thing -  just gently remind yourself that society spent a lot of time and resources trying to ensure that you forget who you truly are. You can't counteract the work of years in one day! 

Keep at it. You deserve to meet your true Self. Your persistence will pay off.

Love, Light and Blessings

Elizabeth Energy

Woman on Woman Crime – An Effect of the Absent Sacred Feminine



courtesty http://excelle.monster.com/benefits/articles/5170-women-bullying-other-women-at-work

 

‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’ could not have been a simpler expressed truth and yet human relationships, even among people who supposedly love and respect each other, are made excruciatingly complex with the addition of totally unnecessary drama. Women, in particular, are known to add a lot of drama to their relationships. Whether it is female co-workers, mothers and daughters (and yes the ever infamous mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dynamic) or whether it be total strangers such as women standing in line at a grocery – women have an uncanny ability to provide pull-a-bag-of-popcorn, stop-and-stare, reality-soap-opera type entertainment to their peers and passers-by.

Why Do Women Seem to Hate Each Other

Psychologist Cassandra George Sturges had this to say on the topic of ‘Why Women Hate Other Women’:

 “Women compete indirectly with other women because they have not learned how to recognize and channel their internal desires, feelings and goals into physical, tangible realities. Once women learn that they cannot control or live vicariously through their children or the man in their life; they will stop hating each other and focus on their individual unique gifts, talents and assets."
Reference: http://beyondjane.com/women/why-women-hate-other-women/#ixzz3a2e4MovQ”

Truthfully, this is a topic that has been explored several times over in various psychological articles. The general reasons that are offered fall into one or several of the following main categories:

·         Self hatred – From the time we were little girls society made it known that we were to look and behave a certain way simply because we were girls. While beauty which first begins within and then shines outward is a truly endearing quality of the Feminine, a male dominated society has placed an unwarranted amount of emphasis on outward beauty. Little girls who feel incapable to fulfil these societal demands soon learn to resent themselves and there are many who says that therein lies the root for self-hatred in many women. Even women who appear outwardly attractive struggle with the issues of self-hatred because in many cases they were not taught to see any value in themselves apart from their physical beauty and a need to always hold on to the ‘little’ value they perceive in themselves inevitably leads to self loathing

·         Competitiveness – Women, it is projected, feel a need to compete for male attention and approval. In a world where the majority of leaders in various spheres of society are men and where women in some regions are still deprived of basic human rights, the need to satisfy or attain the approval of men is well established on both a conscious and subconscious level. Again because men are visual, women deemed more physically attractive can sometimes feel superior which adds to the competitive spirit. Many of the conflicts fought between women which do not openly seem related to beauty are actually based on the unspoken “Oh she thinks she is more beautiful than me!” syndrome

·         Expiration Date Phenomenon – Again society has made women think that they are only useful while they are young and beautiful and so women develop a fear of growing old, fearing that they will be replaced by another younger woman. This then leads to conflicts between older and younger women. Typically mothers of beloved sons, see their daughters-in –law as competition, taking away the one guaranteed and seemingly unwavering form of male approval and admiration that she had up until that time.

·         Hormonal Imbalances which lead to Emotional Imbalances – A grave misunderstanding of woman’s monthly hormonal cycles, especially among women, means that women do not know how to appreciate the different phases of their cycle. [NOTE: All women are affected by a monthly hormonal cycle, whether they menstruate or not]. In fact the very act of bleeding, which represents the ability of humanity to continue its existence at the moment, is treated as an unfortunate and shameful exercise that must be quietly endured.  Lacking the proper education, women don’t even know how to nourish their bodies throughout the month to prepare for the ovulation and mensuration phases.  The knowledge of the huge magnificent task the female body undergoes every month is understated and so very little emphasis is placed on how a woman should treat her body before, during and after the great act of ovulation.  Instead women attempt to make plans for themselves and their days based on the schedules of men whose cycle is entirely different. Unfortunately many women feel that to be equal to men is to be the same as men. The truth is to be equal with men really means to be as equally honoured as men, not by our ability to be like them but rather in being respected for our distinct femininity.

How Knowledge of the Sacred Feminine Can Help

All the reasons offered above can be succinctly counteracted with a growing awareness and embracing of the Sacred Feminine. A woman who understands and embraces her Sacred Feminine, and who knows that she is a goddess in training here on earth, will have the following qualities:

·         Self-love (to counteract Self Hatred) – This lovely goddess knows that she is more than a body and that her worth is therefore more than what the physical eye can see. Having been properly groomed to honour her divine qualities and gifts, she needs no one to define her worth for her and she attracts those who can similarly embrace and honour  her worth

·         Deep Awareness of Connection to All (to counteract competitiveness) – which allows her to see beyond the constructs of the ego. It is the ego which introduces separateness and therefore competition but from a young age a little goddess is taught to see that we are all connected. It is therefore not beneficial to hurt another for to do so is to inevitably harm one’s self.

·         Knowledge of the Various Feminine Archetypes (to counteract the fear of having an expiry date)– which allows women to embrace her many different archetype personalities and to understand that different archetypes take precedence at different stages of her life. There is no limited prime time for the earthly goddess but rather a shift in focus or responsibilities with the passage of time. Time is not seen as an enemy but a tool that assists her along her path of spiritual ascension.  [More information on the Feminine Archetypes is provided below.]

·         Knowledge of the Hormonal Cycle and its Relationship to the Moon Cycle (to counteract perceived Hormonal Imbalances) – Equipped with a proper understanding of her cycle and its relationship to the Moon, women can more effectively plan the activities for the month so that they work synergistically with their bodies’ rhythms and energies. They learn how to appropriately nourish their bodies and increase their intake of fluids so that they do not experience negative fallouts from their changing hormone production. They also learn to understand what is required of them for each phase of their cycle and which archetype and skill set is strongest during the different cycle phases. [More information on the Feminine Archetypes is provided below.]

Awareness of the Sacred Feminine is the Best Defense against Bullying

 

One of the major weapons that women use against women is something professionally termed relational aggression. Relational aggression, also known as covert bullying is a form of aggression where harm is done to a victim through sabotaging or affecting their relationships or social status. Imagine for a second though, a goddess, in full connection with her intuition, being targeted by a bully. She understands intuitively the fears of her oppressor and the bystanders who contribute to relational aggression by doing nothing. Instead of using her knowledge to harm them however, she employs love to diffuse their fears and walks with her head held high as she knows that in truth, nothing can be taken away from her. She is magnetic and it is only a matter of time before people are drawn to her and because she is wise, she uses her magnetism to uplift others.

MORE INFO on The Divine Feminine Archetypes: this is quite sufficiently addressed and explained in many different places on the Internet but this particular website does a really lovely job of explaining this: http://sunyatasatchitananda.com/divine-feminine/

 

Love, Light & Blessings

Elizabeth Energy