‘Treat others as you would like to be
treated’ could not have been a simpler expressed truth and yet human
relationships, even among people who supposedly love and respect each other,
are made excruciatingly complex with the addition of totally unnecessary drama.
Women, in particular, are known to add a lot of drama to their relationships.
Whether it is female co-workers, mothers and daughters (and yes the ever
infamous mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dynamic) or whether it be total
strangers such as women standing in line at a grocery – women have an uncanny
ability to provide pull-a-bag-of-popcorn, stop-and-stare, reality-soap-opera
type entertainment to their peers and passers-by.
Why Do Women Seem to Hate Each Other
Psychologist Cassandra George Sturges had
this to say on the topic of ‘Why Women Hate Other Women’:
“Women compete
indirectly with other women because they have not learned how to recognize and
channel their internal desires, feelings and goals into physical, tangible
realities. Once women learn that they cannot control or live vicariously
through their children or the man in their life; they will stop hating each
other and focus on their individual unique gifts, talents and assets."
Reference: http://beyondjane.com/women/why-women-hate-other-women/#ixzz3a2e4MovQ”
Truthfully, this is a topic that has been
explored several times over in various psychological articles. The general
reasons that are offered fall into one or several of the following main categories:
·
Self hatred – From the time we
were little girls society made it known that we were to look and behave a
certain way simply because we were girls. While beauty which first begins
within and then shines outward is a truly endearing quality of the Feminine, a
male dominated society has placed an unwarranted amount of emphasis on outward
beauty. Little girls who feel incapable to fulfil these societal demands soon
learn to resent themselves and there are many who says that therein lies the
root for self-hatred in many women. Even women who appear outwardly attractive
struggle with the issues of self-hatred because in many cases they were not
taught to see any value in themselves apart from their physical beauty and a
need to always hold on to the ‘little’ value they perceive in themselves inevitably
leads to self loathing
·
Competitiveness – Women, it is
projected, feel a need to compete for male attention and approval. In a world
where the majority of leaders in various spheres of society are men and where women
in some regions are still deprived of basic human rights, the need to satisfy
or attain the approval of men is well established on both a conscious and
subconscious level. Again because men are visual, women deemed more physically
attractive can sometimes feel superior which adds to the competitive spirit.
Many of the conflicts fought between women which do not openly seem related to
beauty are actually based on the unspoken “Oh she thinks she is more beautiful
than me!” syndrome
·
Expiration Date Phenomenon –
Again society has made women think that they are only useful while they are
young and beautiful and so women develop a fear of growing old, fearing that
they will be replaced by another younger woman. This then leads to conflicts
between older and younger women. Typically mothers of beloved sons, see their
daughters-in –law as competition, taking away the one guaranteed and seemingly
unwavering form of male approval and admiration that she had up until that
time.
·
Hormonal Imbalances which lead to Emotional Imbalances – A grave misunderstanding of woman’s monthly hormonal cycles,
especially among women, means that women do not know how to appreciate the different
phases of their cycle. [NOTE: All women are affected by a monthly hormonal cycle, whether
they menstruate or not]. In fact the very act of bleeding, which represents the
ability of humanity to continue its existence at the moment, is treated as an unfortunate
and shameful exercise that must be quietly endured. Lacking the proper education, women don’t even know
how to nourish their bodies throughout the month to prepare for the ovulation
and mensuration phases. The knowledge of
the huge magnificent task the female body undergoes every month is understated
and so very little emphasis is placed on how a woman should treat her body before, during
and after the great act of ovulation. Instead women attempt to make plans for themselves
and their days based on the schedules of men whose cycle is entirely different.
Unfortunately many women feel that to be equal to men is to be the same as men.
The truth is to be equal with men really means to be as equally honoured as men, not by our ability to be like them but rather in being respected
for our distinct femininity.
How Knowledge of the Sacred Feminine Can Help
All the reasons offered above can be succinctly
counteracted with a growing awareness and embracing of the Sacred Feminine. A
woman who understands and embraces her Sacred Feminine, and who knows that she is a goddess in training here on earth, will have the following
qualities:
·
Self-love (to counteract Self Hatred) – This lovely goddess
knows that she is more than a body and that her worth is therefore more than
what the physical eye can see. Having been properly groomed to honour her
divine qualities and gifts, she needs no one to define her worth for her and
she attracts those who can similarly embrace and honour her worth
·
Deep Awareness of Connection to All
(to counteract competitiveness) – which allows her to see beyond the constructs of the ego. It is the ego which
introduces separateness and therefore competition but from a young age a little
goddess is taught to see that we are all connected. It is therefore not
beneficial to hurt another for to do so is to inevitably harm one’s self.
·
Knowledge of the Various
Feminine Archetypes (to counteract the fear of having an expiry date)– which allows women to embrace her many different
archetype personalities and to understand that different archetypes take precedence
at different stages of her life. There is no limited prime time for the earthly
goddess but rather a shift in focus or responsibilities with the passage of
time. Time is not seen as an enemy but a tool that assists her along her path
of spiritual ascension. [More information
on the Feminine Archetypes is provided below.]
·
Knowledge of the Hormonal Cycle
and its Relationship to the Moon Cycle (to counteract perceived Hormonal Imbalances) – Equipped with a proper understanding
of her cycle and its relationship to the Moon, women can more effectively
plan the activities for the month so that they work synergistically with their
bodies’ rhythms and energies. They learn how to appropriately nourish their
bodies and increase their intake of fluids so that they do not experience
negative fallouts from their changing hormone production. They also learn to
understand what is required of them for each phase of their cycle and which
archetype and skill set is strongest during the different cycle phases. [More information on the Feminine Archetypes is provided below.]
Awareness of the Sacred Feminine is the
Best Defense against Bullying
One of the major weapons that women use
against women is something professionally termed relational aggression. Relational aggression,
also known as covert bullying is a form of aggression where harm is done to a
victim through sabotaging or affecting their relationships or social status.
Imagine for a second though, a goddess, in full connection with her intuition,
being targeted by a bully. She understands intuitively the fears of her
oppressor and the bystanders who contribute to relational aggression by doing
nothing. Instead of using her knowledge to harm them however, she employs love
to diffuse their fears and walks with her head held high as she knows that in
truth, nothing can be taken away from her. She is magnetic and it is only a
matter of time before people are drawn to her and because she is wise, she uses
her magnetism to uplift others.
MORE INFO on The Divine Feminine Archetypes: this is
quite sufficiently addressed and explained in many different places on the
Internet but this particular website does a really lovely job of explaining
this: http://sunyatasatchitananda.com/divine-feminine/
Love, Light & Blessings
Elizabeth Energy
